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Dealing with Manipulators and Gatekeepers

You'll learn how to effectively deal with - and protect yourself from - people who manipulate others and hoard contacts

4.5 / 5.0
3800 students1 hours 35 minutes

Created by Vasco Patrício, offered on Udemy

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Manipulators and gatekeepers are two of the most dangerous types of characters in the corporate world.

They will keep information for themselves. Promote themselves and not the company. Spread lies to get other people fired.

And that's just the beginning.

They can cause serious consequences in terms of the productivity and morale of an organization.

Even worse, they will create noise in the information, making you believe the wrong people are actually the low-performers.

So, learning to deal with this type of person is crucial.

That's what we're here to do.


Naturally, there are many courses on social skills and relationships.

But none as complete as this one.

I've been an executive coach analyzing executive relations. Sales. Influence and persuasion. Conflicts. And more.

This course leverages a combination of all of these.

I'm not just going to give you basic tools to deal with these people.

I'm going to show you elite, exclusive techniques from many different areas.


But dealing with someone negative or unhinged is not that easy. Which is why we need a structure.

In this course, we are going to cover the fundamentals of dealing with a difficult person, all the way from optimizing your internal mindset to the tools you can use, and the bigger strategy.

The course is split into four major sections:

  • The Inner Game (dialing your internals and removing your "baggage");

  • Defensive Tools (tools to prevent the other person's negative behavior, but only that);

  • Offensive Tools (tools to actively break the other person or compromise their frame, making them submit);

  • The Strategy (taking into account the bigger factors, such as how supportive HR is, the company culture, and others);

By the end of this course, you will be able to more effectively deal with this type of person, as well as protect yourself so that you can keep perform without interruptions or threats.


Some people - including me - love to know what they're getting in a package.

And by this, I mean, EVERYTHING that is in the package.

So, here is a list of everything that this course covers:

  • You'll learn how to detach from other people's reactions, and stop feeling guilty in the face of emotional blackmail, which is a big component of difficult people;

  • You'll learn how to reinforce your identity to have a stronger sense of self, so that you are less affected by events;

  • You'll learn how to crystalize the specific ways in which the person's negative behavior affects you, as well as quantifying them, so that you can later deal with them;

  • You'll learn how to neutralize the person's frame and/or leverage personal boundaries to take away their power;

  • You'll learn how to explicitly inquire about the person's behavior, making them realize what they do is not "normal", and taking a step back;

  • You'll learn how to document the person's negative behavior, as well as involve them in putting things into writing themselves, against themselves;

  • You'll learn how to leverage the principle of implementation intention, forcing a person to focus on a solution to their negative behavior and making them more open to changing it;

  • You'll learn how to leverage the principle of intent labeling, forcing a person to commit to something that they will need to later do;

  • You'll learn how to use presence and persistence to not only break the person's frame, but also guide them towards the actions you want;

  • You'll learn what factors of the company's environment you should take into account, which can either make your life easier or harder in terms of making this person change;

  • You'll learn what are the usual "protection archetypes", consisting of different behaviors, as well as their pros and cons;

  • You'll learn how to implement a change in your personality, all the way from designing it in your mind to putting it in practice;


Remember that you always have a 30-day money-back guarantee, so there is no risk for you.

Also, I suggest you make use of the free preview videos to make sure the course really is a fit. I don't want you to waste your money.

If you think this course is a fit and can take your knowledge to the next level... it would be a pleasure to have you as a student.

See on the other side!

What you will learn

  • You'll learn about a specific set of tools to deal with manipulators (including forcing them into contradiction, focusing them on solutions, etc)
  • You'll learn simple techniques to isolate your mindset and bulletproof yourself against these people
  • You'll get to know the different "behavioral archetypes" - sets of techniques and attitudes that work against specific types of people
  • You'll learn about the process of consolidating a change in attitude and behavior, so you are not stopped before you even start to protect yourself


  • You don't need to have any prior knowledge (naturally, knowledge of social skills or conflict resolution will help, but is NOT required)
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  • Price: $54.99
  • Platform: Udemy
  • Language: English
  • 1 hours 35 minutes
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bestcourses score: 6.4/10

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